Anxiety psychotherapy can help.
When your needs aren’t met, you feel pain. Whether you hurt physically, emotionally, or relationally, the pain stems from a long lasting unresolved sore spot in your heart or mind. Thus, to leave it to fester can put you in an anxious place of worry, fear, or desperate avoidance.
As a result, this can lead to misperception and misunderstanding. Soon persistent tension and pain feel as though they are always in your path. Until you finally dig deep emotionally and find ways to understand the roots of your pain. From there, you can use your insight and self-knowledge to find the calm that will inspire a new future and better relationships with yourself and others. So what’s first? The emotional work:
5 Ways to Understand the Roots of Your Pain
1. As An Attachment/Relationship Issue
Ask: How did I come to see relationships the way I do? You can start to see what shapes your feelings of mistrust, loneliness, neediness and more when you look at the people in your life. The relationships you didn't choose early on, in particular, can have a great impact on those relationships you choose later. As a child or infant, were you hurt or neglected? Unfortunately, the fallout of your old hurts likely still persist. Were your caregivers overbearing, permissive or irresponsible?
Understanding the roots of your pain may involve a close examination of your early connections and influences. Anxiety psychotherapy can help you get to the root of early attachment wounds. In all, these wounds can be a persistent pain in your relationships, even though they may be covered over by time and inattention,
2. As Trauma-Related
Ask: How did trauma contribute to my sadness, anger, negativity? Trauma changes the way you see the world and your place in it. Too often the pain people experience on a daily basis is linked to a shocking or life-changing event or series of events. Whether you survived a tornado, physical assault, or years of bullying in middle school, unresolved trauma can keep pain alive inside you.
Understanding your pain as a result of reliving or trying to avoid the memory of that trauma, can help you understand it better. As you deal with the past, your pain, whether it lives as physical tension or emotional reactivity, can be released. Trauma then has less control over your emotions and is less able to induce pain with every memory.
3. As a Self-image Situation
Ask: How did I come to judge myself so harshly? Sometimes, we just won't let ourselves up off the mat. We beat ourselves up with self-comparison, poor self-talk, and unchallenged inner critique, as well as a barrage of "shoulds' that interfere with our most authentic lives.This can lead to anxiety about being good enough. Worse, this can lead to depression that we'll never measure up.
Unable to mindfully and compassionate accept ourselves as we are, we usher in persistent inner pain, shame, and distress. It's vital to learn how to calm your negative thoughts. Treat yourself as a friend in need of comfort and second chances.
4. As a Result of Being Stuck
Ask: What won't I let go? Many of us hold on to pain because we think it is safer or morally correct to do so. Perhaps you are struggling to forgive a grievance against you. Maybe a wronged loved one has caused you to carrying around anger and bitterness. You may even trace the pain you carried from an experience you thought was long forgotten but had only been buried in busyness and obligations.
Processing the pain is, taking the time to acknowledge, accept, and release what holds you back or hurts you .There are varying ways to do so but it is a necessary way to see and understand yourself so that you can become a happier, freer self.
5. As a Pathway to Support and Community
Ask: Who can I lean on? The roots of your pain are real and deserve real attention. Sometimes you can dig deep and uncover them on your own. Sometimes you need a more experienced "gardener" with a bigger set of emotional tools. Reach out for anxiety psychotherapy. Healing and growth can start to take place with a compassionate therapist in your corner and nonjudgmental loved ones to help you.
So. Why not take the next step?
Let's dig deep together. Let's work on dealing with the pain together. It's a process, but one well worth the rewards. We're here for you. Please reach out for a free consultation.
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